Are you in the process of getting divorced and looking for help?
The implications of a high-conflict and contentious divorce are far-reaching. The wounds can impact your well-being, your long-term co-parenting relationship and, ultimately, create a fragmented upbringing for your children.
Let's talk about you.
Whether or not you are the one who chose to divorce, this is happening.
You are writing the next chapter of your story whether you want to or not. Yes, this is a scary and uncertain time. But it is also a time full of possibility - a “rebirth”, so to speak.
When you write the next chapter of your story, what will the pages read? Will you decide to fill the pages with bitterness, resentment and loss? An endless cycle of “what could have been” or “what once was”?
Or, will you write a story where you choose peace and allow yourself to live as your most whole and authentic self?
And, yes, this is YOUR choice, regardless of your external circumstances.
In individual coaching, we can work together through the destructive and unproductive emotions that will surface during this process so that you can stay true to your core values, show up as your authentic self and, ultimately, create the life you want for yourself and your children.
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In mediation, I can help you and your ex communicate effectively so as to get through this process efficiently and with all of your best interests top of mind.
Now, let's talk about your kids for a moment.
Your children did not ask to be born into a family that dissolved through divorce. They did not ask to have two homes and see their parents by a “schedule”. They did not ask to feel anxiety about loving their parents equally or loving their step-parents and step-siblings. Above all, they most certainly did not ask to feel caught between two separate families.
Ask yourself…
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When your children are adults and look back on their childhood, what do you want them to feel?
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Are your current actions helping bring your children closer or further from this reality?
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How do you want to show up for yourself and your children?
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Are you allowing someone else’s actions to dictate how YOU react or behave?
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Do your kids feel torn between you and your ex? Is that fair?
These are the kinds of questions we dive into during individual coaching sessions. When I mediate with clients, I always keep these questions at the forefront of what we are doing - constantly reminding you both of the long term goals so you can reflect on the choices and agreements you are making.
The beauty of the human experience is that we literally can change our lives at a moment’s notice by changing our perception, attitude and choices. Your divorce doesn't have to be "nasty" or contentious - you can choose a different path. I can help.